Characteristics of Women Men Should be Aware of
This blog has been a blast as I have gathered information from a variety of Christian women, while also speaking from my own heart. Men, I hope this gives you some insight into how women work so you can love us just a little bit more...
1. We Need to Talk
As women, we love to talk. We need to talk. Sure, some of us are quiet and shy, but a lot of us need to talk about our emotions and what is going on inside. It is not because we are “emotionally weak.” It is because we want to be real. Women who love the Lord will not need to gossip, but will need someone who can dialogue with them. And if you listen closely, you will see we have a lot of great things to say!
Men of God, make sure you let the girl talk about her feelings. Never push her emotions aside to deal with later. A girl loves it when the guy is open with them and can earn their trust. There will always be something to talk about. Being able to listen is key.
2. We are Strong
The saying goes that men are the stronger vessel. I have two brothers who remind me of that very often. Women know that men are strong and we love that about them. However, every girl is strong in her own way. Admire that.
3. We Know Men do not Complete Us
As women of God, we know that men do not complete us. Actually, nothing in this world can complete us. God fills our cups and everything after that is just an overflow of that grace. So men, do not be surprised when you find that godly woman who is not needy and overbearing. Yes, we still need you and want you in our lives, but we have God as our foundation.
Want to know the number one thing we look for in a man? God.
4. We are far from Perfect
We make mistakes just like everyone else. There are so many expectations on women to “do it all” and "be it all". But at the end of the day, we know we are far from perfect. So men, make sure you have realistic expectations and standards of women.
5. We are all Different
Every single girl is different. We all carry different personalities, ambitions, dreams and passions.
My advice here is to never make a judgement regarding all women based on just one of us. Instead of comparing her to other women or trying to change her, appreciate that she is different.
6. We Want the Guy to Call
Yes, this is the 21st century and women ask out men all the time…but really, when it comes down to it, we love it when the guy calls, shows up at our door or makes the first move. I love being an independent women, but when a guy comes knocking at my door, nothing is more attractive.
Men, do not be afraid of stepping up. You will never know, if you do not try.
7. We use the Word "Fine"
While sometimes when we say we are 'fine', we actually do mean it, it is deeper than this. As women, we want to see past the superficial. We also want to be asked more questions than just how are you doing? Women are complex. We just want better questions.
8. We need Respect
This world does not respect and admire women the way they should be. Godly women do not want attention, they need respect. It’s not that hard; just be mindful and think before you speak or act.
9. We Analyze Every Single Thing
We overthink and analyze literally every single thing. As we love to talk about our feelings, we also love to think things through. We look at things from every single angle possible. We examine, review and reason over the simplest of things. We are the queens of it.
Why may you ask? Because we genuinely care and we want to make good decisions. Men, you know how to make life fun. When a friend, sister or girlfriend is over-thinking things, let her. But also help her loosen up and have some fun.
10. We do not Know Everything
Yes, we do have a lot of wisdom, but we are unaware of so many things. As women, we know we have so much more to learn. That is where you come in. Men, while you still do not complete us, you help us learn more about this life, God and even ourselves.
You give us a perspective to life we will never have on our own.
We are very thankful for you.
There is one thing I want to make note of. While these are all characteristics of women and what we need, I encourage every woman who is reading this to also do the same for men. God created us equally; therefore if we demand respect, appreciation and value from men, we must also do the same for them.
Ecclesiastes 4:9 says,
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
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